B Mitzvah

The experience of becoming B Mitzvah at SIJCC includes:

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One-on-one mentorship with a skilled mentor who guides the student through their learning goals and helps them prepare for a culminating experience. 

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A culminating ritual in which the student demonstrates their learning and readiness to enter this next phase of communal life.

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Family meetings led by SIJCC to navigate and prepare for the B Mitzvah journey. 

At SIJCC

Jewish learning on a deeper level is a fundamental component of this experience.

There is rich wisdom within Jewish tradition. Studying and grappling with that wisdom is crucial for a young Jew when they come of age. We come from a tradition of questioning and it is important for young people to have a safe space to question their tradition and to wrestle with how that it is integrated in their lives. The ceremony should represent the capstone of a rigorous process of learning and discovery, so that the young person emerges from their learning and discovery process different than how they started.

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It is important to mark major life transitions.

There is deep value in marking young peoples’ coming-of-age. Our young people are coming to terms with themselves, accelerating the process of self-discovery, and grappling with how they interact with the world around them.

Coming-of-age experiences should feel appropriate for the person having them.

Marking coming-of-age can look different for different people. Individuals who are coming-of-age should have agency in their coming-of-age experience. One size does not fit all.

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Life does not happen alone in a vacuum, it happens with community.

Coming-of-age is not something that one can do alone—a community of loving, connected, present people welcome the young person into community. While it is the individual becoming a bat/bar mitzvah, it is a moment in time that involves the whole family and their relationship and commitment to Judaism. The connection between the young person and a trusted, knowledgeable mentor can catalyze deep self-discovery that benefits the young person and the broader community.

SIJCC Membership required for this program.

B Mitzvah Mentors

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